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by Melissa Lozito

Nov 21, 2023

The Vital Role of Self-Compassion and Self-Care in LGBTQ+ Mental and Behavioral Health

With the increasing recognition of mental and behavioral health needs, we have seen the buzzwords “self-compassion” and “self-care” come into the limelight. For the LGBTQ+ community and individuals from diverse backgrounds, these concepts hold profound significance. Through my journey as a Clinical Independent Social Worker and during my doctoral research focused on self-care, I have come to understand the intertwining relationship between self-compassion, self-care, and their impact on mental and behavioral health, particularly for those within the LGBTQ+ community.

Understanding Self-Compassion

Self-compassion, as defined by renowned researchers like Neff and Davison (2016), revolves around how we perceive and treat ourselves. It is the act of offering oneself kindness, understanding, and the awareness that our feelings are an integral part of the shared human experience. A deeper dive into the research reveals that the LGBTQ+ community oŌen grapples with internalized stigma, discrimination, and issues related to identity and self-acceptance. Thus, fostering self-compassion can serve as a cushion against these adversities, providing resilience and positive coping mechanisms.

Deciphering Self-Care

While self-care might evoke images of spa days or reading a book, its definition is more profound and subjective. Rooted in balance, self-care emphasizes aligning various aspects of one’s life based on individual needs. For many in the LGBTQ+ community, self-care becomes a tool for affirmation, self expression, and a means to reclaim one’s identity in a society that oŌen marginalizes or misunderstands them.

Interconnectedness of Self-Compassion and Self-Care

These two concepts might seem distinct, but they are deeply interwoven. Self-compassion oŌen paves the way for self-care. By cultivating a gentle, understanding relationship with oneself, it becomes easier to prioritize personal needs and engage in activities that promote well-being. Think about the airline analogy of puƫng on your oxygen mask first before assisting others; it underscores the essence of prioritizing oneself.

LGBTQ+, Diversity, and Broader Implications

The practice of self-compassion and self-care is not limited to any one community. Every individual, irrespective of their background, stands to benefit. However, for the LGBTQ+ community, these practices hold a unique and crucial role. They offer solace against societal prejudices, provide a plaƞorm for community-building, and foster mental resilience. Moreover, in diverse seƫngs, where cultural beliefs and practices oŌen shape one’s identity, self-compassion allows for an embracing of one’s roots while navigating the challenges that might arise from cultural dichotomies.

During my doctoral thesis on self-care, I observed firsthand the transformative power of these practices. Clients from various backgrounds, each grappling with their unique challenges, found solace and strength in cultivating self-compassion and embracing self-care routines. These tools, while simple in their essence, played pivotal roles in their therapeutic journeys, reinforcing their effectiveness across diverse demographics.

Incorporating Self-Compassion and Self-Care in Therapeutic Practices

In my therapy sessions, I oŌen emphasize the importance of understanding and being gentle with oneself. Utilizing techniques from Dr. Kristen Neff’s resources and blending them with culturally sensitive approaches, I have witnessed profound changes in clients’ perceptions of self-worth and their capacity to manage stressors. One particular approach that has shown promise is the practice of “check-ins” during sessions. This involves creating an environment where the individual feels empowered to share their journey with self-compassion and self-care. These sessions oŌen lead to revelations, providing individuals with renewed perspectives and tools to navigate their challenges. I fondly remember my collaboration with a colleague where we instituted “Mental Health Mondays”, a simple yet impacƞul initiative where we would reach out and check in on each other’s well-being. This not only fostered a supportive community but also emphasized the importance of consistency in self-care practices.


The realms of self-compassion and self-care hold immense potential, especially for those navigating the complexities of identity, societal expectations, and personal challenges. As mental health professionals, and indeed as a broader society, it is imperative to understand, promote, and integrate these concepts. They are not just buzzwords but essential tools for fostering mental and behavioral well-being. The

Journey begins with oneself, asking the pivotal questions: How am I caring for myself? How am I showing compassion to myself today? By answering these, we embark on a journey of holistic well-being.


  • Lozito, M. (2018). Self-Care Practices among Geriatric Social Workers (2018). Walden Dissertations and Doctoral Studies, 5636. hƩps://
  • Neff, K. & Davidson, O. (2016). “Self-compassion.” Mindfulness in Positive Psychology: The Science of Meditation and Wellbeing, 37.

Wellness, Mental Health

by Melissa Lozito

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